I DIDN'T ACCOMPLISH MY GOALS. NOW WHAT?
Updated: Mar 18, 2021
How we look at goal setting is an integral part of our results.
As I come out of my 90 day challenge, I feel a little down on myself that I only met one of my three goals. But you know what? Its time for a mindset shift. There are a lot of ways to look at the process of goal setting and achievement. Some people have arrived at the assumption that it's not worth it to set goals- "Why? I never stick with them past January" or "Goals are for high achievers only" or "I don't have time to work on goals". I have always been a goal setter. I achieve some. Many are continuous and more about becoming who I want to become so they're hard to measure. I've learned in more recent times how to set more measurable goals.
The main thing to keep in mind is that goal setting and achieving is a process. The awesome thing about life is that it is ours to experience. We have a beautiful God-given gift called AGENCY. With this, we determine what our life will look like and how it will flow.
Mahatma Gandhi's quote is truth:
This is why goal setting is so important. So worth our time. It is important to have a vision of what we want for ourselves in our future. With a vision, and action creating good habits leading us toward that vision, I have no doubt we can accomplish our goals.
Some goals will take time. We might try time after time to get it right. We may take planned actions for a time and realize those actions are not helping us reach our goal. So we change course and rework our action plan.
My #90daychallenge goal was to work with my subconscious mind to remove blocks so I could move forward in certain areas of my life. I have discovered these blocks, or false ideas that are preventing my success in these areas, have been with me for as long as I can remember, so they are deep rooted. The success indicators were to be to:
1. Stop picking at my skin and have clear, smooth skin.
2. Stop biting, picking at my nails and have nice, manicured nails.
3. Double my income
Through tracking and the motivation of being in a challenge with a purse of $10,000, I was able to stop my nail biting/picking habit. I have tried so many times throughout my life and have finally succeeded with the right mindset! Woohoo!! I can proudly announce I am no longer a nail biter/picker.
In addition to the challenge motivation and daily tracking, I also used daily affirmations. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to see much visible improvement on the other 2 indicators. But I'm not ready to throw in the towel on these two yet. I truly believe that those 90 days were beneficial as I 1. Recognized and called out my blocks and
2. Challenged my mind to start creating new neural pathways.
I spent a lot of time trying to help my subconscious mind see that we just need to
get off the old highway and start driving the new, rough, bumpy dirt, [neural] road.
(see GOAL SETTING & THE ROADWAYS OF THE BRAIN for more on this).
So what's the plan with my unmet goals moving forward?
🔲 I plan to continue this new road imagery with both my abundance mindset and breaking my skin picking habit - they may be the roads less traveled, but will be full of new experiences and things to be learned, and will become highways of their own in time.
🔲 I plan to use the 12 week year* system. I am reading the book and designing my new goal setting plan currently and am excited to report back on my goals at the end of my next 12 week period. I'm excited to break them down into more achievable objectives and tactics! It will also be good to review them daily, weekly and at the end of the 12 week period. This system definitely supports the idea that goal setting is a process. It allows for making changes as needed and fine tuning the processes to help you achieve your goal.
🔲 I have chosen for some of my 12 week goals to use new tools. Meditation, hypnotherapy, cognitive retraining, and a list of options with which I can replace my habit are a few.
🔲 I'm just going to keep truckin' until I reach them, because
There is no failure, you either win or learn.
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